Sheena Oxer

Sheena Oxer

I believe that every person has the right to a peaceful and happy life and be set free

For Professionals

Do you have a patient who is experiencing:

  • overwhelm/ intolerable feelings
  • anxiety
  • depression
  • stress

Quick Referral

Please open and print this leaflet and give it to your patient.

Has this patient/client tried everything you have been able to think of and is still coming to you and asking you for help?

There is something that might be able to aid that patient. 

There is a logic behind how we are experiencing life and when we insightfully see it as true it has the ability to effortlessly change that experience. It is not a tool or a tip or a technique. It is a description of how we are already working. What patients can get from it this a sense of peace, with an absolute knowing how they are working and why they are feeling as they do.

To refer, please open and print this leaflet and give it your client.

Your patient is able to contact me to arrange a free chat where I can talk more about this and they can see if they think it may be something they are interested in following up. I have been lucky enough to witness clients changing with understanding this, the change happens to them. Things that are noticeable are:

  • A reduced judgement of themselves and others.
  • An acceptance of feelings that were previously intolerable
  • More love and compassion for themselves and others.
  • Less anxiety, worry and depression.
  • A relaxing into life.

This understanding has been and is being taught all over the world. Below is a summary of some research has been carried out. This research can be found on Three Principles Movies site.

Mental Health

  • 91% reported being significantly more in control of their behaviors, feelings, and thoughts 
  • 75% reported feeling significantly less depressed 
  • 91% reported being significantly more in control of their behaviors, feelings, and thoughts 
  • 82% reported significant consistently (after 6 years) high self-esteem and positive changes in marriage and personal relationships 

Psychology

  • 80% ʻsignificantʼ reduction in affective disorders 
  • 84% ʻsignificantʼ reduction in anxiety disorders 
  • 79% ʻsignificantʼ reduction in adjustment disorders 

 

The approach I teach is being taught succesfully at rehabilitation centres in the US for example Gulf Breeze Recovery who have a high 73% percent success rate. They have a page of lovely video testimonials.

Further information

There is a lovely TED talk by Johann Hari. He tells us about Bruce Alexander, professor of psychology in Vancouver who noticed that our ideas about drug addiction is based on research on rats when they were isolated in a cage. To test these ideas he built ‘Rat Park’, which is ‘rat heaven’ where the rats can live sociably with others and procreate. He then gave them a choice between normal water and water with drugs. In a sociable environment the rats choose the normal water. Johann has travelled the world to talk to adicts and he says “a core part of addiction… is about not being able to bear to be present in your life.” I would totally agree, and then we look to something outside of ourselves to fix that feeling, to make that feeling go away or to blot it out.

But knowing how our experience is being created allows us to be less fearful about our feelings that are coming up in the present. So there is no need to fix them, they change on their own. To know that thought is bringing us our feeling and that there is nothing to do about that is liberating.  When we think about addictions we typically think about drugs and alcohol. But many of us are addicted to other things such as Smart phones, shopping, internet, YouTube, etc. We are innocently looking in the ‘wrong’ direction to help us to feel better. When it doesn’t last we do it again to try to feel better, in the absence of anything else. This makes sense to us until we insightfully see that we are already whole, that we don’t need fixing and psychologically we are working beautifully.

Research by Nobel-winning scientist Elizabeth Blackburn and health psychologist Elissa Epel has have found that there is a role of thought in aging, the way we think having an effect on our actual DNA. The researchers have not yet seen this understanding so they give you things to ‘do’. However the fact that thoughts can effect our aging is still compelling and give us evidence for the role of thought in our experience of life. 

Kelly Mcgonigal a health psychologist from Stanford University talks about “How you think about Stress matters” and the research suggests that if you think “This is my body helping me to rise to this challenge, your body believes you”. This is again evidence for the role that thought plays in life. How we think about stress matters to the body. But knowing that it is thought changes us through insight. 

In the same way the placebo effect can be explained with this understanding. When a patient takes a tablet that they think is good for them, their body responds. A double blinded control study was un-blinded early due to the efficacy of the IBS drug that was being trialed and it was in fact the placebo that was efficacious. So we can see what the patient thinks will happen that make the changes within their body. They really thought that they were taking something that would make them better, and they got better. Dr Michael Mosley carried out a study recently on the placebo effect and back pain. Maybe it helped the particiapants to see the moments they did not have back pain, which helped them to think differenlty about the pain they were having. 

The beauty of this understand is that your patients do not have to take my word for it. When they insightfully see this, it is exactly that, an in sight, a sight from within ourselves. So it is no longer what someone else has said to them but what they know to be true for themselves. All that is required is that we get interested in where we think our human experience of day to day, moment to moment life is coming from.