Sheena Oxer

Sheena Oxer

I believe that every person has the right to a peaceful and happy life and be set free


A Walk to Grandpa’s is a story that most people will be able to relate to and helps us to see where our feelings are coming from.

It is written so simply that any child can understand it but is really for any human being who is looking to understand themselves more.

It was inspired by several people: A fellow three principles coach looking for a children’s book, my mentor and not least my daughter who sees how we experience life so beautifully.

An Unfair game is for anyone who gets angry from time to time and forgets how they are experiencing life, at this point life can look unfair. This books helps to point us back to how are really experiencing life.

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A Walk to Grandpa's

An Unfair Game

Here are some comments from Amazon:

I bought 3 copies of Sheena’s wonderful book, one to keep for myself and 2 to give to children in my life. Having 2 versions of the same story is a great way to see and understand how thought is creating our experience moment by moment. It’s a great teaching and reminder to children and adults alike. Buy it, you will be glad you did!

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This is a powerful and transformative read for big and little kids all over the world. Simple, charming and easy to read. When anybody discovers how their Mind works, life becomes easier, more loving and much more relaxed and focused. What a delight! Every child deserves all the happiness in the world!


And here are comments from some lovely three principles facilitators who have been kind enough to take the time to read the book and make comments.

— Sandy Krot – Director of Learning at Insight Principles and co-author of Invisible Power: Insight Principles at Work

I work with business leaders many of whom happen to be parents. They often ask me to recommend books for their kids. I can’t wait to recommend this one! The simplicity of Sheena’s message and her illustrations really hit home. I expect the book to be read again and again planting a valuable life lesson in kids of all ages.

— Cheryl Bond – Essential Resilience, Executive Coaching and Business Consulting

I love it. I work with business clients who have a tendency to over complicate and intellectualize the simplicity of the Principles. While this book will certainly serve as a wonderful introduction for their children, it may also help them have insights for themselves. There’s a beautiful innocence and hope in seeing our thoughts as neutral bubbles that will disappear. That’s a message for everyone.

— Peter Anderson – Cert. Edn, Adv. Dip Edn (Cambs)

As a retired primary school headteacher and school improvement advisor (and as grandad to three children) I have seen first hand some of the struggles children face when they live in an innocent misunderstanding of where their feelings really come from. This simple tale, in two parts, will be so helpful in illuminating this. Children will easily identify with the story and by having the comparison of outcomes the simple but far reaching implication of knowing where our feelings come from is simply made. A great present for any child!

— Annika Hurwitt, Ph.D

I have taught this understanding to many hundreds of adults, and when they see how much it reduces their psychological suffering and adds to their quality of life, they almost always say: ‘why aren’t children learning about this?’ Sheena Oxer’s story is a lovely and enjoyable way to help children catch on to the magic secret behind their experience, and likely save themselves a lot of the unnecessary anxiety and stress that so many people experience in life.

— Joseph Bailey, Licensed Psychologist, Author, and Counselor

As an author, teacher and therapist I often get requests from my students and clients for something to share with their young children. “If I only knew this when I was growing up!” is a refrain I hear often. Well, here it is in this early childhood gem on the Three Principles. It will be wonderful to now have something to share with parents. Just yesterday a young mom of four kids asked if there was anything she could give her children. I am so grateful I now can send this to her and all future requests.

— Rudi Kennard, international speaker,

This simple book has the potential to eradicate the complexities, issues and problems that naturally occur when we don’t know where our experience is coming from. It offers a profoundly practical understanding that I feel is the future of the education system and indeed human evolution. What a wonderfully helpful resource for children – our future.

Countless books have been written about underpinning of the imagination to the world we inhabit. Being and Time of Heidegger has 590 pages and Being and Nothingness of Sartre has 638 pages (to name but two). But nothing has been written so childishly simply in our choice of worldview as Understanding Thoughts and Feelings. In this book we are relieved to find that we all knew about a happier way of being already and so do not have to read through the history of philosophy (phew!) We do not have to think and see our thoughts as something outside ourselves talking about a world outside that. We can live with all of our being the nothingness and time of the moment. I recommend Understanding Thoughts and Feelings, A Walk to Grandpa’s by Sheena Oxer (16 pages including illustrations) as a guide for all ages and backgrounds!

— Philip Franses – Senior Lecturer Schumacher College, Director Global Synapses

Here are some comments from young readers:

— Maisie, age 11

I really enjoyed reading this book. It’s about how you can see the same things so many different ways. I realised that my feelings come from thought and
thoughts are just like bubbles, they always change or pop. Knowing that helps me, because I know that my perspective changes and in that way helps me enjoy things more.

— Mothers comment

I thought it was
wonderful book with illustrations that keep children interested and
reading becomes less overwhelming.

The first story George got all upset and angry because he didn’t know where his feelings come from. He thought they came from the football game and his mum. He ended up sad and angry.

In the second story George realised it was his thinking in his own head that was upsetting him. This made him feel better and he had a good day.

I like this book. My favourite bit was when George remembered about thought.

I will tell my friends about this book so that they will know about thoughts and stuff.

And here is a comment from a three principles facilitators who have been kind enough to take the time to read the book and make comments.

— Dr Giles P Croft – former NHS surgeon, writer, speaker and 3 Principles practitioner

I’ve been giving away copies of Sheena’s first book to clients, ever since I happened upon it – it’s that good! Now I’m delighted we have more, and in this short tale of one football game, seen from two completely different perspectives we learn once again how thought creates our entire felt experience of life – a lesson we can all benefit from hearing time and again, whatever our age.